We resist our pain in so many ways, often because we don’t feel worthy of something different -something better; we feel too “broken” or we don’t believe that healing from our trauma is even possible.
Sometimes our trauma story is the only story we know – our identity. Our safe and cozy cocoon of familiarity.
Resisting our trauma can look like:
Trying to “save” other people by involving ourselves in “project relationships”
Trauma bonding
Surrounding ourselves with people who are willing to co-sign on our denial patterns
Numbing out with drugs or alcohol
Self-harm
Self-judgment
Projection
Faking happiness
Scrolling through socials and focusing on everyone else’s lives but our own
Over-working
People pleasing
Settling
Spiritual bypassing
Excessive distraction
Victimization & blaming
Sarcasm
Controlling others
Gossiping
The list goes on and on and on!
In order to lean in, we must:
1. be willing to take honest inventory of ourselves and the ways we push our pain away;
2. believe whole heartedly that our healing is POSSIBLE, that we are WORTHY of emotional freedom, and that we can TRUST that others can help us – and even more importantly, that we can trust in our ability to help ourselves;
3. be completely FED UP and willing to surrender.
4. be willing to feel it to heal it.
This can look different for all of us.
Here are some of the ways I help my clients to lean in:
Somatic and Attachment Focused EMDR
Inner child work
Yoga & body movement
Breath work
Chakra balancing
Art
Boundaries & assertiveness training
Song and dance
Journaling & poetry
Aromatherapy
EFT Tapping
Guided meditation
Grounding
I believe that we ALL have the power to heal.
Whether you are currently in resistance or leaning in..
????I see you.
????I love you.
????I believe in you.
????I honor you.
